Fertility Blog

Just be grateful for what you have.

That’s what we’re taught when we’re younger, and that’s what gets drilled into our head throughout our lives.  You must be grateful.  Anything less than that, and well, you’re spoilt or ungrateful.

So, when secondary...

Anything that starts with JUST or ends in AT LEAST……..won’t fix infertility OR comfort someone who is struggling to get pregnant.

 JUST relax.

If I had a dollar for every time I was told to JUST relax on my 7-year fertility journey, I’d be a millionaire. ...

I have a confession to make.  There were so many times on my fertility journey that I just couldn't picture being a mum.  I couldn't imagine the feeling of being pregnant. I'd close my eyes and try to see it, but so many times, I'd just get a blank screen.

And it scared the shit out of...

We get so caught up on what we SHOULD be doing in order to fall pregnant, that we stop doing the things we LOVE doing.

It happens gradually at first.  We introduce one thing we SHOULD be doing, and that doesn’t work.  So, we introduce another, and that doesn’t work...

One of my all time favourite quotes is, YOU CAN’T BE BRAVE WHEN YOU’RE TIRED.

And when you’re struggling to fall pregnant or maintain a pregnancy, you need a level of bravery on par with Captain America.

Sleep is one of THE most important things to ensure we’re healthy and...

You finally saw those two lines and felt pure joy and excitement.  You imagined holding your baby in your arms..... before fear stepped in and took over.

I thought pregnancy was the cure for infertility and my miscarriage grief. Turns out I was wrong.

Anyone who has ever fallen pregnant...

Anyone who is trying to conceive or wants to have babies in the future has that room set aside.  You know, the one that accumulates baby things.  Hand-me downs from your sister or token items you purchase for when you’re pregnant.  That cute book you can picture reading them...

When I was in my 20’s, I watched my father die of cancer and held his hand as he took his last breath.  I visited my grandmother and hugged her in the hospital the night before she died.  And this all happened a month apart! 

So, I was no stranger to loss and grief.  But...

By the time we go down the path of surrogacy, we’ve usually been trying to conceive for quite some time.

Using a surrogate to carry our baby is more often than not THE last option in our bag of tricks after exhausting all possible avenues. IUI, IVF, invasive exploratory surgeries, diets,...

One of the lessons I learned on my fertility journey was that in order to heal, you must feel.

In my book, The Injustice of Infertility, where I share ALL of the lessons, I write –

“In order to heal, you must feel. And yes, that is so freaking difficult because the emotions and...

Just RELAX.

One of THE most frustrating pieces of advice I was given throughout my fertility journey.

This was closely followed by, just go on a holiday and it will happen.

First of all, being told to relax has the opposite effect on ANYONE.

It’s the same as CALM DOWN. I know for a fact...

This question has been on my mind, due to a recent post I put up on Instagram.  It caused quite a stir and criticism, and got me thinking whether I had done the right thing.

Actually, in truth, it shot me straight into a vortex of confusion and shame. 

Which is exactly how I felt when I...