Fertility Blog

I remember the first time I felt true shame about having to do IVF to have a baby.

We were sitting in the waiting room of our fertility clinic, and I was waiting to be taken in for our first egg retrieval.  I was a bunch of nerves and a little uncomfortable - both physically and mentally.  As I was...

The advice DON’T GIVE UP is thrown out there so often, it’s basically ingrained in us from childhood.  You can achieve anything if you don’t give up.  Keep trying.  Practice makes perfect. And the list goes on. 

So, it’s no surprise that it’s a common comment on Instagram posts for those struggling...

I never wanted to be an “older” mum.

It wasn’t my plan.  But sometimes things don’t go according to the way we plan – sometimes they work out better.

The thought of being an old mum terrified me, if I’m being completely honest.  I started trying to conceive when I was 33 – on our honeymoon to be e...

“Infertility was not my first rodeo - but it was the first bull I ever rode that bucked me off and laid me on my ass. It broke me open and created scars that never really healed.” - The Injustice of Infertility.

Yep, there is a LOT of beef analogy in this week’s blog post. 

Infertility is a roller...

A home pregnancy test.

It’s a stick that you urinate on.  Just a stick.

But for many of us, it represents so much more.  It can be a beacon of hope.  The destruction of a dream.  A continuous form of anxiety.  And trauma.  It isn’t just a stick.

It holds so much power over us.  It can turn the st...

Unfortunately, one of the many casualties of infertility is our friendships.

In my experience, there are usually two types of friendship deaths.

The first category is where we lose friends who are unable to support us in the way we need.  Who continually say insensitive comments and are blissfully...

I wouldn’t normally consider myself a superstitious person……until infertility.  This journey has a way of taking over our mind and our body.  And the longer you’re on this somewhat soul-destroying rollercoaster, the crazier you feel, and the more consuming it gets.

Around five years in to our quest...

One of the most exhilarating yet scariest moments on your IVF journey is your embryo transfer day.  It has been such a tumultuous time to get here.  You’ve injected yourself with hormones and your stomach is filled with bruises.  You’ve gone through the rollercoaster of emotions with monitoring scan...

As I’m writing this blog, we’re at day two of a 3-day lock-down.  And I’ve just heard on the news that this lock-down is going to be extended for another 5 days.  I’m not happy.

On my run this morning (in my allocated exercise and fresh air allowance time), it occurred to me that the emotions I was...

"When are you going to have a baby?"

It’s a seemingly innocent question on the surface. But to the woman who is struggling to conceive it’s like a thousand daggers to the heart.

It’s the question we self-isolate (yep, we were doing it way before COVID-19 came along!) to avoid getting asked.

Over ...

When I look back on the 7-years I spent trying to create my family, the one word that comes to mind to describe everything that was going on inside me was STRUGGLE.

There was inner turmoil and conflict and shame.  And it kept bouncing around inside me with zero chance of escaping, because I was pre...

I went to a baby shower on the weekend. 

I’m going to be honest with you.  I don’t particularly enjoy them.  It’s nothing personal - I guess I’m just hyper alert and a little scarred from my battle with infertility.  This baby shower was absolutely beautiful….pink balloons, cupcakes with cute littl...